Monthly Archives: March 2017

Be careful what you wish for…

Did you hear the piper?” Bill says excitedly.

I look up from my crossword, incredulous. If you’ve never had someone play bagpipes in your lounge-room, I assure you, you are unlikely to miss it. “I did hear him“, I reply.

The young crew from the pub were in the process of moving the St Patrick’s Day revelries to our kitchen. ‘The piper’ was the last to join them arriving to his own fanfare. The guitar, accordian and guitarlele were getting a right ol’ work-out. The usual repertoire of favourite tunes had already started accompanied by vocal harmonies. This group of late-20 and early-30-something year-olds play and sing together often, and they play and sing well. They also drink lots of beer, talk loudly and passionately, and stay out late. I love having them around but the noise gets too much for me so I retire to my bedroom and enjoy the party from the other side of the wall.

18 months earlier…

Mary and I are riding the train to Sydney to fly to Bali for the Living Your Dharma retreat when she asks, ‘Where do you see yourself in 2 years?’ With a deadpan expression I say, ‘Married with children’. I am 54, childless and have been in same sex-relationships for nearly 30 years. Mary watches my face for a while for a sign that I might be joking. Finally, she says, ‘I guess he’ll already have children.’ ‘I guess so‘ says I.

I’m also a little surprised. I thought I’d given up on that dream, but there it was; unequivocal.

We spend the next week at Narasoma in Ubud, Bali taking retreat participants through the process of distilling and defining their dharma; their life’s purpose. I’m going through my own process. I sit with my revelation and what that might look like.

November 2015…
I find a beautiful dress. It fits me like a glove and looks fabulous. I show Mary and tell her ‘I could get married in that dress’. She says, ‘buy it’. I do. It’s $80.

December 2015…
While celebrating Christmas with my family in Perth I announce that I am getting married in June or July next year. ‘Great‘ they all say. ‘Who to?” ‘I haven’t met him yet’ I reply. Nothing much they could say to that I guess.

6 March 2016…
Over breakfast I tell my friend I’m floundering with my attempts to put my bee-hive frames together. My friend suggests I meet with her friend, Bill, who keeps bees. Bill and I work easily together and he helps me with my frames. He’s single and has 3 adult children and 4 grand-children.

8 October 2016…
Bill and I marry in front of family and friends in Gregson Park, Hamilton under a big old Morton Bay fig. I arrive by BMW scooter in my slinky dress. Bill’s son Michael is best-man. His 2 daughters are there too. I catch Mary’s eye in the front row. All the little kids in attendance climb the tree and photo-bomb the ceremony. Bill and I have the best day ever. We honeymoon for a week in Ubud at the retreat centre.

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St Pat’s Day: 2330 pm Loud thumping noise that rattles the whole house as it beats time to the music.

Oh dear, someone’s found the lagerphone. Rehearse apologies to the neighbours in the morning. Kids, eh.

Mary’s first comment when she reads this…’the title could be…be careful what you wish for’.

Our Living your Dharma weekend is just 2 weeks away – 7-9 April 2017. If there is something you want to create you’d better come.

Go to our Events page to register.

xxCoralie

Your Dharma ‘lights you up’

Have you ever had the experience of doing or talking about something and feel yourself starting to ‘light up’, you feel energised…excited…happy…you may even glow a little bit?

Those moments hold the key to discovering your Dharma.

It happens to me when I start talking about Ayurveda, our 2WiseWomen retreats, my grandchildren or just my life at the Ashram. All the things I love and feel passionate about. I can feel myself getting excited, my words flow easily and my heart feels like it is overflowing…and it’s in those moments that I know I am on track…I am living my Dharma.

Over 12 years ago when I started to study Ayurveda I was so excited by what I was learning that I wanted to share it with as many people as possible. I opened my practice in Newcastle and constantly thought about how to create an Ayurvedic Community. At the same time I was completely out of my ‘comfort’ zone. Not only was I coming from a business background, I had been completely oblivious to anything ‘alternative’ for the first 42 years of my life. Fortunately, I was so besotted with Ayurveda that I didn’t let that stop me and followed my heart and not my head.

My dream for community and to share Ayurveda was a big part of my decision to come to live at Mangrove Yoga 12 months ago. I have a dream that Mangrove Yoga will one day offer Ayurveda training. It feels like a big dream, a really big one. One that scares me as well as excites me. I have no real idea how it is going to happen but I know that it will.

This knowing comes from looking back and seeing the twists and turn s my has taken ever since I started asking myself, and listened, to what I want in life. I have come to understand that it is more important to know WHAT I want, than the HOW of getting it or making it happen. I now happily leave that part to the universe, trusting that signposts will come and knowing that my role is to watch for and follow them.

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Are you on track? Life has a way of sending us a signpost when we aren’t.

An Ayurveda conference I attended in Melbourne last week was my latest signpost, reminding me of my dream to bring more Ayurveda to my new home. I went to the conference knowing I’d gotten off track a little, spending too much time on things that didn’t ‘light me up’. Now I’m back on track.

So what’s your dream?

What ‘lights’ you up?

What do you want more of in your life?

Is there something sitting in the background that you want to do but the HOW or circumstances of your life feel in the way?

Our Living your Dharma weekend is just 3 weeks – 7-9 April 2017. If there a little voice saying “yes, I want to do this” …that’s a signpost…listen to it.

Go to our Events page to register.